Comments on SingleChristian.org: A Tale of Two Books

I love your blog! We share the same ideas about t...

2009-07-20T14:36:20.914-07:00

I love your blog! We share the same ideas about the malarkyism that has crept into the whole singleness thing. Nuns tried to recruit me. I will post that next.

Kevin Thanks for the clarification. I now see wh...

2009-05-10T14:36:00.000-07:00

Kevin

Thanks for the clarification. I now see where you say Maken and not McCulley.

Actually it's Maken's book that bashes men....

2009-05-10T12:09:00.000-07:00

Actually it's Maken's book that bashes men.

I noticed your comments about Carolyn McCulley's b...

2009-05-10T09:21:00.000-07:00

I noticed your comments about Carolyn McCulley's book and started to read it.

In the introduction she talks about a group of women she studied Josh Harris’s book called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" with and how they embraced what he had to say. Then she says in a few paragraphs later, that (doing the math) 7 years later most of the women who studied the book with her still weren’t married.

I will be curious to read and see if she even asks if there might be a cause and effect between “kissing dating goodbye” and her and others possible “kissing marriage goodbye.” That is did their embracing “kissing dating goodbye’ lead to possibly “kissing marriage goodbye?” Josh Harris wrote the forward to the book so I doubt she asks this question.

I do know that in at lot of churches there are more single men then women which could lead to some of the women not getting married but McCulley said most of the women still weren’t married 7 years later.

You said she men bashes especially older single women. I wonder if she has ever asked the question that maybe the "kissing dating goodbye" culture has a tendency to produce men like this?

It is sad if this connection hasn't even been asked.

I have a blog where I critique the book.

Steve
www.ikdg.wordpress.com

Marky,

Here's the problem I have with the "...

2009-03-11T17:46:00.000-07:00

Marky,

Here's the problem I have with the "gift of singleness" idea:

Many argue that being single is a "gift" based on 1 Cor 7. I believe such interpretations are putting too much emphasis on ONE WORD from ONE VERSE instead of looking at the Bible's overall message regarding male-female relationships.

In other words, people who are single by circumstance are told to enjoy it because it is a "gift" from God. This just doesn't ad up with the Bible's overall affirmation of marriage.

I think what you are referring to is often called gift of celibacy --someone who is single for life in order to focus on the kingdom.

I'll discuss the "gift of celibacy" in another post.

Blessings!

SC,

I believe that singleness IS a gift, IA...

2009-03-11T17:12:00.000-07:00

SC,

I believe that singleness IS a gift, IAW Matt. 19. Jesus talks about the eunichs. He says that some were eunichs from life events; some were eunichs from birth; then there were some who were eunichs by the Kingdom of Heaven' sake. He then says this: let him that is ABLE to receive it, receive it. That's key! It seems to me that Jesus is saying that singleness is indeed a gift.

MarkyMark

I believe singleness is not a gift nor a sin.
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2009-03-09T22:00:00.000-07:00

I believe singleness is not a gift nor a sin.

Singleness is a choice just like marrying is a choice. God will not force us not to marry nor will HE enforce someone on us to marry.

God's given us the ability to choose and base our choice on Biblical standards.

It's silly to blame the opposite sex for singleness or anyone for that matter, specially, God.