For those of you who don't know me, I'm an author. I've published a couple of books about relationship issues (my latest book is entitled Learning the Hard Way: True Stories of Heartbreak, Healing, and Hope.)
So far what I've written focuses more on sexual purity. But I'm considering going a slightly different route if I decide to write book number three.
I'm thinking of writing a book called The Dumb Things Christian Singles Believe or something like that. Here are some of the reasons for writing such a book:
1. It seems some of what I've read just isn't balanced (check out my post entitled A Tale of Two Books).
2. I think there are a lot of Christian singles out there who are frustrated. I believe part of the frustration is due to mixed messages from the church.
3. This blog is not a mens rights or "men going their own way" blog. Having said that, I'm getting a little weary of the oversimplified rhetoric of "men just need to get their act together."
4. This one is related to #3. I'd like to see singles encouraged to pursue marriage in a way that is not so . . . well . . . holier-than-thou.
These are just a few things going through my mind. I'm not presuming to have all the answers to these issues, but maybe I could help encourage my brothers and sisters in Christ.
I'm not sure if this book will ever happen. Heck--I'm not even sure I could get anyone to print it (here in the Philippines or the States). I'm just thinking out loud.
4 comments:
Frankly, this book is SOOOOOO needed. It seems in regards to the discussion regarding marriage, singleness, protracted singleness, and divorce in the Church there is a tendency of extremes and a serious lack of balance. A one size fits all approach is not working, and neither is simply touting a return to traditions due to the safety/nostalgia of the familiar.
Actually agree with a lot of your insights on the other post 'Tale of 2 Books.' I don't think singleness is a gift in a way that God actually gave it to you for right now. I mean God is sovereign and He has plans for you, but it's not like He purposely intended to block all other men or women for you for this certain time of 'singlehood' just so you can be close to Him. That sounds like a weirdly, cruel and controlling God, which is unlike His character. He really doesn't impose His will on us.
I actually am curious as to this book. Why don't you write it, brother? It really sounds interesting.
I'm a very independent single Christian girl myself but I'm kind of feeling girl power to be overrated. There's this phenomenon in churches all over the world that men are just not bold in asking out women for some reason or other. Like you, I've read most books written by women and a few written by a guy (except the one who kissed dating away) who don't put much light on the subject.
I'm curious as to your planned book. I know a lot of women will be. So go for it, brother! I hope the Holy Spirit enlightens you on how to move forward with it!
Thanks, blessed!
I'm really considering this project, but I have a lot going on right now. But I haven't forgotten this post or the book idea.
Can't wait to read it. Actually, I can't wait to read your first book, "learning the hard way", but when I looked on amazon it wasn't there.
anyother places i might be able to find it?
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