Many Christians meet their spouses by coincidence--they meet at time when they weren't necessarily looking for love (a college class or church event, for example).  

"There are no coincidences in a Christian's life," you may argue.  Fair enough, but I think you understand my point:  some people find their spouse without really looking for him/her.

Such stories are inspiring, and it seems God sometimes goes "out of His way" to make sure two people get together.  But here's the problem:  I think we've created over-spiritualized, unrealistic expectations on how one is to meet his/her spouse.  

Let's take the whole "waiting" idea.  When I talk about "waiting," I'm usually referring to sexual abstinence until marriage.  But it seems many Christian singles think "waiting" means you can't do anything to look for a spouse--you just . . . wait . . . and wait . . . and wait some more.   

I want my readers to consider two things:

1.  God is glorified in Christ-centered marriages, regardless of how the two met.   The real God-glorifying part comes in the way the husband and wife serve each other through marriage.  I'm afraid we get too caught up in stories of how couples met instead of paying attention to how they handled their marriage afterwards.

2.  Taking practical steps to look for a spouse does not make you less spiritual.  I've already talked about this in previous articles.  But the more I talk to Christian singles, the more I feel the need to repeat it.  If you are of age, take advantage of every opportunity to meet Christian singles.  Don't confuse being pure with being passive. 

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