I ran across this article a day or two ago on Yahoo. Here are the seven things:
1. You will look at the person lying next to you and wonder, Is this it? Forever?
2. You'll work harder than you ever imagined.
3. You will sometimes go to bed mad (and maybe even wake up madder).
4. Getting your way is usually not as important as finding a way to work together.
5. A great marriage doesn't mean no conflict; it simply means a couple keeps trying to get it right.
6. You'll realize that you can only change yourself.
7. As you face your fears and insecurities, you will find out what you're really made of.
I've never been married, but this list makes sense to me (and it is consistent with what married couples have told me).
Why am I posting this? Well, I think some singles have unrealistic expectations about marriage. Instead of seeing it as trading one set of issues for another, some see it as a lifetime of bliss in which the relationship works effortlessly.
Please don't get me wrong--I'm not discouraging marriage. I simply want our readers to understand the work, sacrifice and committment required to make a lifetime covenant work.
7 comments:
It would certainly not work for those who are selfish and always,only thinking of what they can get out of it rather than what they can give in it.
If each partner would give of themselves daily for the other partner, then the needs of both partners would be taken care of and unselfishly.
It is not always like that, but if you give of yourself most days, then you will have a happy home.
Make date nights with each other often, especially after children come into the picture.
Most important, love, understanding, and forgiveness, give us permission to be human.
Married persons need PRAYER, too. LOTS of it.
Deciding to get marry and have a family is not an easy task. But if it is your will to take that vocation then you must know from the start what you need to sacrifice. Marriage is not always a "bed of roses", but like a rose there were thorns, which serves as a trials. But for me, we should not be afraid of risking our lives into marriage 'cause somehow it will give more blessings also.....like me I receive the best gift ever in my life-my child. (^-^)
Thank you for this. I see a lot of people entering marriage with unrealistic expectations and expecting marriage to quell all their deepest longings and desires, not even considering the amount of work and sacrifice is required to make marriage work.
This is a great list! As a 20 something who has a lot of friends getting engaged, this is great motivation to me to continue to wait until the time is right. Thanks!
Thank you so very much for your
insightful posts and commentary
from a non secular perspective.
Keep up the great work.
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